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Loneliness
We all experience loneliness every now and then. It’s not necessarily a problem if you feel lonely from time to time. Loneliness is a perception rather than a fact or a situation. You feel lonely because you’re lacking connection. You’re missing that close, emotional bond with others.
We’re going to explain what loneliness is and what the different types are, as well as the causes and effects. We’ll also give you some tips on how you can manage it better. But what if you’re still struggling with feelings of loneliness? We’ll explain how you can get in touch with one of our psychologists.
What Is Loneliness?
Loneliness is a perception. It’s the state of feeling lonely. Some people need meaningful relationships and a large social network much more than others do, so loneliness is very much a personal experience.
It’s hard for other people to tell just by looking at you whether you’re lonely or not. People won’t necessarily be able to see that you’re dissatisfied with the interactions you have with your romantic partner, friends, family or other acquaintances. That you find it difficult to improve these relationships, or that you’ve maybe even given up trying. This means that it’s difficult to identify loneliness. Only you can tell if you’re feeling this way.
Whether or not you’re experiencing loneliness largely depends on how you feel about being alone. If you think about it a lot or keep worrying about it, then your feelings of loneliness will only intensify. Always bear in mind that feeling lonely is a perception. And that you can tackle it by changing your circumstances.
Why Is Loneliness Different from Being Alone?
Being alone is the objective reality of being by yourself. Loneliness is subjective, because it refers to a feeling of isolation. When you’re alone you might still feel happy, something that isn’t possible when you’re lonely. Signs of loneliness include confusion, insomnia and depression – all things you won’t necessarily experience as a direct result of being alone.
Causes and Effects
Loneliness has a major impact, especially if it goes on for a long time. You start to feel like you’re withdrawing from regular society. There’s a risk that you’ll become less socially active, which is a downwards spiral that’s difficult to break.
Ultimately, this could lead to both mental and physical health issues that will have an impact on your overall happiness. As social beings, we definitely need human connection.
Types of loneliness
There are several different types of loneliness:
- Social loneliness
You’re lacking social contact, or you think that you are. You’ve started to withdraw socially, which means you’re interacting with others less and less. - Emotional loneliness
You’re finding it difficult to be honest with your partner, friends and colleagues. Since you’re not really being yourself, you feel lonely even if there are others around you. - Existential loneliness
You’re not really sure why your life matters or what the point of anything is. Your loneliness is related to larger issues. You’re not sure what exactly you’re contributing to the world.
Dealing with Loneliness
You can learn to manage your feelings of loneliness. This will diminish the impact they have on your daily life. But what if your feelings persist? It’s time to speak to one of our psychologists. Cognitive behavioral therapy or acceptance and commitment therapy can both really help here.
FAQ
What if I have people around me but still feel lonely?
That’s very normal. Loneliness is not about the number of people around you but the quality of your connections. You can feel lonely even when surrounded by others. In therapy, we explore where this emptiness comes from.
How do I know if my loneliness is a psychological issue?
If loneliness is accompanied by sadness, withdrawal, or feelings of worthlessness, there’s often a deeper issue. Therapy can help create positive change.
What if I struggle to initiate contact?
Social anxiety, fear of failure, or past experiences can make it difficult to connect. Together, we work on building trust, communication skills, and breaking negative patterns.
Related symptoms
Loneliness in relationships
You are in a relationship, yet you sometimes feel lonely even though you are not physically alone. For example, you may feel misunderstood by your partner, or you may feel that your partner does not give you enough attention. Feelings of loneliness occur more often than you might think and are normal. But prolonged loneliness can affect your mental wellbeing. If you feel alone in your relationship for a long time, it is important to do something about it. After reading this article, you will understand how loneliness in a relationship arises and have tools to help you feel less lonely.
Dealing with loneliness
There are certain practical steps you can take if you’re trying to tackle loneliness. You can manage your feelings in different ways so that they have less of a negative impact on your daily life.
For example, it might help to talk to someone about it or make a list of all the people you could call for a chat. If you start small, you’ll be able to figure out what’s working for you in your battle against loneliness.
Causes and Effects of loneliness
Loneliness has serious consequences. If you experience feelings of loneliness for a prolonged period of time, it can lead to both mental and physical health issues. You’ll start to feel like you’re withdrawing from regular society. It’s important to act quickly in order to avoid any unnecessary long-term problems.
Get help from a Loneliness psychologist
Contact one of our psychologists today without obligation. You can talk about feelings and symptoms. In addition, you will receive information about a suitable treatment that suits you.
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